The Creation of Sexuality: The Sociable Purpose

Every sixteen-year-old Christian male attempting to honor God asks the same question of the almighty: why did you make me to have sexual desires! It’s really more a cry of frustration than an earnest inquiry. We saw yesterday that each of us is a unique sexual being, and that our sexuality is both essential to our personhood and to our being created in the image of God. But we are not sexual beings in isolation from each other, which is what frustrates the average young Christian teen. For our sexuality does not just serve to identify us as people, it also has a sociable function. That is to say, a part of the purpose of God-designed sexuality is to draw us together.

In the storyline of Scripture we see this clearly from the near start of the narrative. God has been in a pattern of creating, and always with a positive evaluation of his work. Light: good. Dry land and sea: good. Vegetation: good. Stars, sun, and moon: good, good, good. In Genesis chapter 1 everything is coming together nicely and then, in chapter 2, there is a recognizable “not good.” Man is alone. Though he is created a unique sexual being it is not good for him to be alone, so God creates for Him a woman. And the two become “one flesh” in the narrative of the text. They are made for each other and together they are “very good.” Richard Davidson comments: the full meaning of human existence is not in male or female in isolation, but in their mutual communion (The Theology of Sexuality in the Beginning: Genesis 1-2, 8). Man and woman together make up the fullest earthly expression of what it means to be human (again let me stress that we are not talking about sex itself here, but sexuality).

The problem of Adam’s loneliness is resolved by the creation of Eve, and then the two become “one flesh.” Now the one-flesh concept has to do with sex, but it’s more than sex. In the Hebrew culture the idea of “flesh” has to do with one’s whole existence. Thus the two are connected in all areas of their life. Their sexuality is about becoming one unit together in life. It is about their mutual communion.

Sexuality is for sociality. In fact it is our sexuality that attracts us to one another and compels us to pursue relationships. Adam’s problem is every man’s problem. His sexuality drives him to seek out social interaction. Our sexuality is an essential part of our being, but so is our sociability. And in this case the one leads us to the other. We need each other, are created for each other, and our sexuality serves the purpose of helping to direct us towards relationships. This, mind you, is not just about sex either. Our sexuality plays a part in the pursuit of all relationships, which is why it is super important that we correctly understand our sexuality as God intends it. Otherwise our pursuits, driven by our sexuality, will be very messed up. More to come on that very delicate and yet very important subject. Stay tuned to this series as I wrestle through these concepts in my own thinking and development.

Update: This lecture has proved insightful also on a number of fronts for me. Check it out: What is Sexy?


  1. […] a social element to our sexuality. I have tried to address that in some sort of introductory form here, but Michel Foucault sees that relationship in a completely different sort of way. In his classic […]

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